Maybe I’m wrong but I think it is inappropriate for a woman to raise a boy or a man to raise a girl. Only a man can raise a boy to become a man (socio-culturally) and vice versa. Of course the consequences of dysfunctional parenting are not always life threatening but they do, to a greater or lesser extent, affect the evolution of the child’s emotions and consciousness.
A boy who lives with his mother throughout his childhood and growing up may, depending on numerous other factors, have trouble behaving in a way that’s typical of men. In short he may acquire too much femininity. The inverse applies to a girl but this situation is not always the case. The interesting thing about human societies is that relationships are more fluid. Humans are extremely social and social ties can be formed under almost any circumstances. There are aunties, nieces, friends, neighbours, teachers etc. who also shape a person’s behaviour should he or she lose one or both parents.
I suspect that people who are anatomically or biologically one gender but identify with the opposite or people who have gender ambiguity may have suffered some parental dysfunction at an early stage in their lives. Unless biologically and anatomically they are ambiguous. A functioning society is a like mirror, it helps humanize us. One will never know who one is until one shows themselves to the “mirror.” Happy Weekend.