Observations in Social Anthropology 

Maybe I’m wrong but I think it is inappropriate for a woman to raise a boy or a man to raise a girl. Only a man can raise a boy to become a man (socio-culturally) and vice versa. Of course the consequences of dysfunctional parenting are not always life threatening but they do, to a greater or lesser extent, affect the evolution of the child’s emotions and consciousness. 

A boy who lives with his mother throughout his childhood and growing up may, depending on numerous other factors, have trouble behaving in a way that’s typical of men. In short he may acquire too much femininity. The inverse applies to a girl but this situation is not always the case. The interesting thing about human societies is that relationships are more fluid. Humans are extremely social and social ties can be formed under almost any circumstances. There are aunties, nieces, friends, neighbours, teachers etc. who also shape a person’s behaviour should he or she lose one or both parents.  

I suspect that people who are anatomically or biologically one gender but identify with the opposite or people who have gender ambiguity may have suffered some parental dysfunction at an early stage in their lives. Unless biologically and anatomically they are ambiguous. A functioning society is a like mirror, it helps humanize us. One will never know who one is until one shows themselves to the “mirror.” Happy Weekend.


6 thoughts on “Observations in Social Anthropology 

  1. While there may be a psychological dysfunction behind claims of gender ambiguity despite the anatomy not being ambiguous, I disagree that only a woman should raise a girl and only a man can raise a son. This draws a line between the two genders and leads to a sort of inequality between the sexes.
    Your statement also comes out biased to same sex couples who are competently raising children.
    As you mentioned the cases are rare but sometimes it’s easy to forget that who we are is not just influenced by the environment we live in but also our genes (and how the two interact) for example, some girls are born with base voices and some boys with soft voices.
    Lastly, some parents are just shitty despite of gender and which gender they are raising.


    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts my friend. Ideally a child should be raised by both parents but if that’s not possible, that’s where all that I’ve said comes in. This implies that if a child is “competently” raised by same sex couple, he or she will likely lose out on some vital knowledge about the opposite sex. For instance if two women raise a boy, will this boy grow up to correctly behave like a man? He can only correctly learn to behave like a man from a good father. True, our genes also play a part which is why I referred to “numerous other factors.” I agree 100% with your last point.


  2. That’s why it’s best if any given child has both parents to offer the benefits each has to offer. One reason why many Americans are a bit wonky, they only had one (or one and a half) parent.


    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts. The “one and half” part made me laugh. I don’t think it’s only Americans. Many communities around the world are filled with single mothers. I do agree 100% with you that it’s best for a child to live with both parents.

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  3. 1) prospective parents should be required to get a license to reproduce; it’s far too easy at the moment so people often do it for the wrong reasons, or none at all, 2) American families are often dysfunctional and lack the close-knit structures inherent in other cultures where children will automatically be taken care of, regardless of the quality of care provided by the biological parents.


    • I think you’re on point. It’s possible 90% of all pregnancies are unplanned. Nevertheless, psycho-social care of children was not a problem in Africa (because of the extended nature of the family) until individualism set in.


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