Observations in Social Anthropology 

Maybe I’m wrong but I think it is inappropriate for a woman to raise a boy or a man to raise a girl. Only a man can raise a boy to become a man (socio-culturally) and vice versa. Of course the consequences of dysfunctional parenting are not always life threatening but they do, to a greater or lesser extent, affect the evolution of the child’s emotions and consciousness. 

A boy who lives with his mother throughout his childhood and growing up may, depending on numerous other factors, have trouble behaving in a way that’s typical of men. In short he may acquire too much femininity. The inverse applies to a girl but this situation is not always the case. The interesting thing about human societies is that relationships are more fluid. Humans are extremely social and social ties can be formed under almost any circumstances. There are aunties, nieces, friends, neighbours, teachers etc. who also shape a person’s behaviour should he or she lose one or both parents.  

I suspect that people who are anatomically or biologically one gender but identify with the opposite or people who have gender ambiguity may have suffered some parental dysfunction at an early stage in their lives. Unless biologically and anatomically they are ambiguous. A functioning society is a like mirror, it helps humanize us. One will never know who one is until one shows themselves to the “mirror.” Happy Weekend.

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My Sunshine

She is my sunshine.

Her smile reminds me of sunrise.

Her legs are so sexy.

I have no doubts at all.

But the only way to know

If you can’t live without 

Someone is to first live with them.

Is love truly blind?

What did Shakespeare mean by “love is blind?.” Is he saying the love world is full of blind men and women knocking their heads together like chickens in the dark? That people who love do not know what it is they see and love in eachother? There is not a single man or woman who does not know what he or she loves about the other partner. Love behaves as if it were blind to the highs and especially the lows but it’s not.

Love Zone

It’s season of love again.

Many will find love or rekindle

The flames of love again.

Others will have their broken

Hearts mended or restored.

All genuine love heals.

Love can only happen if

One agrees to be vulnerable.

Can’t walk into the whole affair

With your sword and armour

And all the wounds of the past.

It’s love zone not war zone.

All I want to say is I love you baby.

Yes You 

After I passed her,

I turned to steal a look again.

She too turn to look at me.

Our eyes met, she didnt blink

Or look away.

We both looked away again.

I turned back again and our 

Eyes met again.

It happened like four times.

Was she actually looking at me

Or somebody else?

So I pointed at myself and

Asked (or rather mimed): “me?”

“Yes You,” she nodded.

What does she want me for?

I’m not tamed.

Three words that reach the heart

Today is sunday which means my favourite day to post. I want to get over all the anger and frustration with what God should or should not have done in my life. Being angry with God is like being angry with the weather – it’s vexation of spirit. To me God is nature or the universe and remains so. Though some friends tell me that my thoughts are contradictory, in my mind everything is harmonious. I know exactly what I want. I’m not confused about anything. I could go to church, sing the hymns and shake hands with the preacher but that doesnt mean I have become a fundamentalist. I call it resilience. I could entertain just about any idea without conclusively accepting it. Being part of a larger community also makes one more humanistic – we just have to agree to disagree.

Last time I heard, my neighbour was praying that Jesus should kill all his enemies and he actually said (verbatim): ‘All my enemies die in Jesus name…die!…die!…die!’ This made me laugh so hard and I figured if not because of the law he will probably ask permission from Jesus and murder them himself. So here we can see the corrupting effect of false religion on the human mind. If Jesus exists in the material world, and if indeed he listened to such prayers we will all be dead by now. Nine out of every ten christian in my country has prayed such prayer before. How will he killing one’s enemies make one’s life better? If one is lazy and ignorant one remains poor and miserable even after all enemies are dead.

As I mentioned earlier I want to draw your attention to three words that reach the heart. These words have proven effect on even the most callous person, provided such a person is actually human. But they are also words that, for the proud in spirit, are difficult to utter. Unfortunately secular education does not teach virtue anymore and it’s sad. They inflate the ego with logic and logic has no reverse gears. So one only needs to keep moving forward. Culture has also evolved in such a way that modesty and politeness especially in men implies a weakness, so now most youths act tough to impress others and it often fails them in the end. The three words which if uttered genuinely, reaches the heart, irrespective of whether the relationship is marital, professional or casual are ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘help me.’ Happy sunday!